Quest for life

This is my third trip to Dhaka. The first two were short and hectic but this time I have plenty of time and hence this post.  At first glance everything seems so gloomy. Political situation is not what it should be. The security situation is worsening. I see intolerance and distrust. The social situation at first glace is even worse than it is in Nepal. Human rights situation is bad and so is gender parity. The environment is in real bad shape and so is general health of people. However when I visited Dhaka University I immediately was filled with hope. Here was the youth full of hope and dreams.  The university was established in 1921 and Curzon Hall is one of the attraction of this building. However, the impressive architecture is not what made me feel good but the general atmosphere of the university.  Here was a normal university scene like it would have been in Delhi or in any other university in any part of the world for that matter. I could see male and f...

Recently, I changed my "Whatsapp" status to Seeking, searching, looking, delving, hunting, gunning, pursuing.....". The remarks I got for this status are quite amusing. Some people only took the later part of status of "hunting, gunning" etc. and asked me whats going on. I told them that I am exactly doing what is written in the status. But it is mostly for knowledge and experiences, and not for a man as they seem to understand or imply. Isn't it amazing how people perceive as per their limited experience and knowledge and then insist that there interpretation is the right one. I should admit that I used to be like that too and have never been a keen observer. A quality that I am trying to develop only so late in my life. Observing your surroundings can teach you so many things that you don't learn from books. Life's most interesting and important lessons can be derived only by observing people and overall happenings around you. This is part of s...

I have just realised that one witnesses maximum amount of family politics at the time of a death in Family. I would have thought it would be more at the time of weddings but I now realise that it is more when someone dies. I recently had a death in my family and this is the conclusion I have come to. I usually avoid going to such family gatherings but when you do go you get amazing lessons in patience and also in human tendencies. You will have cruel aunts, smart cousins, petty cousins, greedy uncles and drama queens under the disguise of well meaning in laws etc. etc. Everyone is doing better than you and everyone has an advise for you. You wonder how can life be so good for others and be a bitch for you. You feel miserable but at the same time self righteous. Aren't you the good one. At least you are not the one who pretends or snatches someone else's share or is a hypocrite or greedy or conniving or back biting. Have you ever thought how do you become soooo good. Well, is...

Is it possible to love without expectation? To me it is hard to comprehend. We are raised in such a manner that we can't fathom that it is possible or at least I can't. Each loving relationship that we have seems to be based on the basis of reciprocation. Our parents brought us into this world hoping that we shall give them the sense of happiness and in eastern cultures it may also be an insurance for the old age. Expectations are many different things. We expect all sorts of things in our relationships; security, communication, intimacy, affection, sex, companionship, love, appreciation, boost to our self esteem, money, boundaries, values, goals and many other things. In fact we even have expectation from our own selves. We don't love ourselves without expectation. We don't even accept ourselves the way we are. We have to look a certain way, be a certain way and feel a certain way so that we can love ourselves completely. Isn't it true? So when there is a talk abo...